Are v10 firm clients fee sensitive?

Is it normal to feel like you want to die in this job, or am I the problem?

I’m first gen: I’ve paid of my loans, my parents’ debts, own my house outright, and paid off my parents house. I know it wasn’t the optimal way of doing things, but it was the only way to relieve my financial anxiety. I’ll never be homeless again. So now when people say “invest aggressively,” what does that mean. Is moving money to the fidelity robo-investor sufficient?

Did I screw up? I just gave my notice to leave my comfortable midsize regional firm to join a V20 firm. I am a 6th year in a niche practice area and live in a HCOL city. The midsize firm came back with a very aggressive counter. Increase base from 180,000 to 260,000 with a guaranteed bonus of 50,000 and income partnership in 2 years. The hours end up being the same at both firms because of the amount of work that comes through the door.

I have a $1.2M net worth as a 3rd year NYC mid level (including home equity) yet I still feel broke and empty. Majority of paycheck simply goes into retirement accounts, mortgage or index funds. Not interested in dating/relationships and most days I just eat a six piece chicken McNuggets on the way home from work for dinner and rice and beans at home on weekends. No traveling, no vacations, not close with family (not interested in any of that). Anyone else similar? I can’t be the only one